are you still waiting to be chosen?
growing up in the 2000s, i encountered many children's novels and shows featuring protagonists who are special because they're chosen. they're wizards or telepaths or they have wings or a godly parent or fairly oddparents or whatever. now as a young adult, i still have this feeling that one day i'll casually do something wonderful, be noticed, and my life will take off. on a rational level you know that you have to work for most things in this life, but i'm still moved by this idea of being chosen. maybe i'll go to this networking session and make friends with a brilliant investor who will fund all my projects. maybe this project will be the one to go viral. what if i just send in that application, maybe i'm just better than everyone else now that i fixed my sleep schedule.
i'm not saying don't try! please try! the point is that you need to put what you want into the universe, ask people for it, and don't stop until you get it. that means you need to define what you want and be wrong sometimes, which is scarier and feels sillier than being involuntarily chosen for greatness. i'm putting in applications but i'm not getting selected anywhere. clearly the applications aren't working, you need a different path. nobody wants to date me and everyone sucks. you need a dating coach or an honest friend. etc etc. don't wait around while your real skills atrophy and your time fritters away. you've already been chosen to live this life, now start acting like it.